The Anticrastination Tip Sheet
Author of The Procrastinator's Handbook and
The Clutter-Busting Handbook
If you love a flower, don't pick it up.
Because if you pick it up, it dies
and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation
In the end only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. ~~ Buddah
Message from Rita
LET IT GO! LET IT GO!
Once upon a time, I was The World's Greatest Pack Rat. I was close to being one of those hoarders because I had a path through stacks on the dining room floor. Which wasn't too terrible because we could never eat in that room because my dining room table was piled high with papers and stuff.
My life was filled with things I didn't need or use. When I decided to "convert" I asked myself some difficult questions. Mostly, why the heck am I hanging on to all this stuff I don't need or use.
At first, I told myself that I might need it some day. And if I knew that I would never ever need it, I hung on to stuff because somebody someday somewhere on this planet for some reason .... might need it.
But when I finally got brutally honest, I had to admit that if ever I (or somebody) DID need that something that I was saving, I usually forgot that I was saving it.
OR if I DID remember that I had it, I could not find it because it was buried under lots of other things I did not need or use.
Finally, after much soul searching, I admitted that I did not need all that stuff. I needed to be finally free of clutter and chaos. I needed space .... clear and clean space. I needed to stop being overwhelmed and embarrassed by my clutter, I needed to be able to find stuff that I wanted. I needed to stop hating the way clutter filled my home, my office and my life. I had tricked myself into believing all that stuff would make me happy but it didn't. I realized that to become clutter-free would make me happy and THAT is what I needed.
It was time to finally let go, not only of my stuff, but also of my outdated, false beliefs about who I was, and what I needed to be happy.
But it was hard. I wasn't just getting rid of stuff and clothes that I thought I'd wear some day or all the broken things I figured I'd fix some day or sentimental items that I thought brought back memories but I forgot I had so how could they bring back memories. It also meant getting rid of my excuses, my stupid "reasons" for keeping everything, and it was time to face reality.
My phoney baloney "reasons" were standing in the way of my dream of being clutter-free. It was an emotional struggle to let go of those "limiting beliefs" as well as the stuff itself.
I kept asking myself two questions.
1. What is the worst thing that can happen if I get rid of this?
If you are a true Pack Rat, I can hear you thinking "Somebody will need it someday and that somebody might be me."
That's true. Out of every thousand things you get rid of, there will likely be one or two items somebody might want & that item will have to be purchased again. Maybe you really WILL start to play the ukulele or make your own pasta or lose weight (but you are not going to want to wear clothes from ages ago. Trust me.) However, till any of that happens, you can have the joy of being clutter-free.
2. What is the best thing that can happen if I get rid of this?
It's not easy getting rid of stuff you've hung on to for years. But look at the results! The freedom, feeling like a winner, like you can conquer the world, you have space. Not only can you find what you want now, but in the process of plowing through everything, you found many treasures that you forgot you had.
You know where things belong, you know where to put items and your place looks pretty good without all that clutter. And you are not embarrassed to have people over any more. You realize that THOSE feelings outweigh the emotions you went through in deciding to get rid of your clutter.
What would your life be like if you got rid of your clutter?
What would YOU be like if you were clutter-free?
Want to participate in a free Clutter-Busting TeleClass? See below:
FREE CLUTTER-BUSTING TELECLASS
Do you know what a TeleClass is? It's a class by phone. No computer needed.
In the class, I'll give you a ton of ideas, tips and techniques to get rid of your clutter.
Thursday, March 26, 7:00 PM Central time.
Cost: It's free
To Register: click here
When you register, you will receive the phone number to call for the class.
WISE & INSPIRATIONAL WORDS FROM A WISE & INSPIRATIONAL READER
I just had to send a heartfelt THANKS to you. I picked up The Clutter-Busting Handbook as a gift for a friend in the UK,... but then I began to peruse the pages, and realised I was projecting my own problems on someone else as I looked under my kitchen sink, bedroom closet and bathroom cupboard!
I live in a lovely, but tiny place in Toronto. I am an artist, performer, and lover of outdoor activities. Supplies for painting, sculpting, costumes plus my cycling stuff, backpacks, snow shoes and climbing gear were beginning to overwhelm me. I love my home to look and feel welcoming, tidy and full of character, but I realised the stress of storing so much stuff in hidden places was really aggravating me. Being a 'creative' type, with a knack for yard sale 'scores', I see potential in every lovely piece of junk, so many ways to give it a new life by 'upcycling'... but I never get around to it.
Well I have taken your amazing advice, and just began to do a little at a time... Below the kitchen sink is sparkling and open and organised, the bathroom too, and I FEEL so much more ... capable and proud of myself. ... and a little addicted to it now. Everyday I say a little mantra "Everything in its place, and a place for everything.."
I agree it begins with bringing less home in the first place, and even though I am an anti-consumption type of gal, yard sales and second hand stores are still a weakness for some of us who try to be more 'environmental' and are good at finding amazing deals of high-end things... but in the end it's still just STUFF.
Your words really motivated me to get to work on my wee place, and now it already feels lighter and brighter.
All the Best,
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Author of The Procrastinator's Handbook,
The Clutter-Busting Handbook and
Manage Your Time to Reduce Your Stress: A Handbook for the Overworked, Overscheduled, and Overwhelmed
Des Plaines, IL 60018
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