January 2014
The Anticrastination Tip Sheet

From Rita Emmett
Author of The Procrastinator's Handbook and
The Clutter-Busting Handbook

Quotes for January

May I have the courage today
To live the life I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more. ~~ John O'Donohue

Better pass boldly into that other world, in the full glory of some passion, than fade and wither dismally with age. ~~ James Joyce

Playing it safe is the most dangerous thing we can do. We have to get bolder. ~~ Steve Jobs

Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time. ~~ Bob Proctor

Message from Rita

Bucket Lists

Do you have a "Bucket List"? You know … the idea that was popularized by the 2007 movie of the same name.

It was described as the list of all those things you want to do before you "kick the bucket". Things like … learn to play the harmonica, or go to New Zealand or arrive at your high school reunion in a hot air balloon. All those big and little things you've dreamed of doing but never got around to.

Have you ever thought about what you might regret when your time on earth is over?
Bronnie Ware is a woman who worked for years with patients who had gone home to die. During the last three to twelve weeks of their lives, Bronnie listened to them, talked with them and eventually wrote a book, "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying".
Here is what she says are the main regrets of those nearing the end of their Life Journey.

  1.  I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
    When people shared their unfulfilled hopes, most had not honored even a half of their dreams and felt that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

    Do you know what your dreams are or have they been buried? Can you do anything this coming year to move you toward at least one of your dreams?
  2.  I wish I didn’t work so hard.
    Many said they missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. All of the men and many of the women who were breadwinners, deeply regretted spending so much time on work instead of on what was important in their lives.

    Unless we make conscious decisions, our lives can start to spin out of control. By simplifying your lifestyle and making mindful choices of how the hours of your life are spent, you might be able to find extra time for being with those you love and doing what you enjoy.
  3.  I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
    Bronnie writes: "Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

    Have you ever known someone to hold back discussing something because it might upset, hurt or anger that other person? Then the result is resentment that causes the relationship to become disconnected or the friendship to end or both people simply drift apart? It happens.
    Doesn't it?
    By speaking honestly, it can raise the relationship to a new and healthier level. OR it might release the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
  4.  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
    There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time & effort that they deserved. Bronnie says that everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

    Perhaps this could be the year to renew an old friendship or two.
  5.  I wish that I had let myself be happier.
    This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. Lack of decisions or fear of change had them pretending that they were content; that they were surviving. Over and over Bronnie heard people say they had believed that they were not capable of having a happy life.

    Abraham Lincoln said, "People are as happy as they choose to be". When I first heard that quote, I didn't believe it. It took six months of struggling with that concept before I finally understood that life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously. Choose honestly. Choose happiness.

    One more thought. I find it interesting that at the end of life, nobody wished they had a bigger house or car or more gadgets. This is thought-provoking, isn't it?

Wishing you a Happy New Year filled with joy, love, good health, prosperity and time with family and friends. Wouldn't this be a perfect day to call an old friend?

If you -- or someone you know -- are looking for work, join us to learn job search skills:
Wed., Jan 22
Noon (Central time, 1:00 PM Eastern, 10:00 AM Pacific)

You don't have to be a one of our readers to participate, everyone is welcome. I will interview Irishman Conor Cunneen, an acclaimed business speaker, author and humorist.

Conor normally speaks about business to associations and corporations, but he has a deep and genuine passion for helping those in job search. Conor will share valuable "job-landing" skills and strategies that he covers in his fascinating new book SHEIFGAB! Staying Sane, Motivated and Productive in Job Search.
By the way, Conor nearly dropped his pint of Guinness when I used the word "unemployed." He hates the negativity of it and insists that I use action-oriented, positive words such as job search and job transition.

If you are interested but cannot attend, be sure to register because afterward EVERYONE (whether they are on the call or not) will receive
a FREE Kindle edition of the book plus
a FREE download of the TeleClass.
Also, after you register, we will send you the phone number to call, a handout, and a reminder as we get closer to the date.

To register:
Hit "reply" or email REmmett412@aol.com or call Rita at 847-699-9950
Put TeleClass in the subject.
Give us your name and email address

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Rita Emmett
Author of The Procrastinator's Handbook,
The Clutter-Busting Handbook and
Manage Your Time to Reduce Your Stress: A Handbook for the Overworked, Overscheduled, and Overwhelmed
2331 Eastview
Des Plaines, IL 60018

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